Last Night

As you guys know I wrote about my excitement in going to this CIAA event last night. Let me tell you how it went down. It seems as though there is ALWAYS something… I love my life.. I don't think I'd know what to do with a regular run of the mill boring life..

It was cold as hell out there last night. I kept watching tv and procrastinating b/c everytime I looked in the mirror, I saw two big azz zits laughing at me. Anyway, my goal was to leave the house by 10. I was able to get out by 9:55. I decided on the red pants and a cute black sweater with a V. Oh and as cold as it was, I was still wearing my toes out.. LOL! I wore some black suede peep toes that have red soles and a red heel. Got a picture in your head? Ok. Cool.

I drive up to the place and park in the garage. This event takes place at a museum. I'm walking up to the building and about to call my friend John b/c he has my ticket. But I see him standing at the door waiting. When I walk in, he hands me the ticket and I hug him. He tells me I look nice and yada yada. As soon as I give them my ticket and we are inside, he pulls out a ticket. You have to buy tickets to get liquor and he has already purchased wine tickets for me. We walk over to the bar and get some Cabernet. I proceed to start taking off my coat and he helps me and grabs it and then he says he's going to check it in. I think to myself, "John really knows how to treat a lady. He anticipated all of my needs before I knew what I needed.."

Now let me give you a brief synopsis of us. John took me out for my birthday and I made it clear as the sky that I was not interested in a relationship and I just wanted to be friends. We talk on a regular basis and there has never even been any physical nothing outside of a hug b/t us. Got it? Ok. So I wasn't sure if he was going to be talking to me most of the night or he was going to be off about his business. I was fine either way. I didn't want to invade his space nor did I want to disrespect him. So I figured I'd take my ques from him.

We walked over to a spot and he introduced me to one of his frat brothers. John then proceeds to walk off and me and that frat brother are making small talk. He tells me he moved here from Chicago, but he went to college at Southern in Baton Rouge for a while. We start to talking about food and places and we even know a couple of the same folks. He then proceeds to be getting more into my business. You know how many kids you have, what's his name? that kind of thing. He tells me that he's a professor. After about 30 mins of chatting, he tells me that he doesn't want to take up too much of my time and to let him know if he's talking too much. I tell him he's fine and I don't know anyone besides John there anyway.

A few mins into this, John walks up and we start talking as a group. John hands me another wine ticket and before I walk away, he moves closer to me and kind of puts his arms around my waist. And at this point it makes me uncomfortable and I pull away and walk to get my new drink. To me puttng your arm on me like that speaks to everyone in the place that we are "friendly." I kind of swallowed hard b/c to me that meant that no other guy would even think about speaking to me b/c they'd think we are more than we are.

Sure enough when I came back from the bar, the professor that was so friendly and talkative walked away and didn't speak for the rest of the night. Ok. So John never drinks around me. He might have one drink, but that's it. Well he puts his arm around me again and this time he's looking in my eyes and telling me how pretty I am. All I keep thinking about is why is he doing this and these damn pimples on my face. He says something about my toes and then we get into this conversation about me being conservative.

I asked him what that was supposed to mean and he just goes WAY over what I would ever think he would say. Then he says something along the lines of thinking of me all the time and dreaming about me. I burst out laughing to kind of play it off and he says something about me not loving him. At this point I'm looking at his glass and wondering how many tickets he has bought b/c he has got to be drunk. I smile and tell him that I do love him AS A FRIEND. I then proceed to take myself to the bar again.

When I come back, he's talking to another chick. John is a friendly person and I don't pay this any attention, except to wonder if I saw correctly and she has a gold tooth? WTF? Anyway, they go dance and then they sit at a table. The DJ comes over and makes small talk with me and asks the million dollar question. "What can I play to get you on that dance floor?" I laugh hard on that one b/c this will not be one of those nights where I'm on the dance floor. So I can't think of but one song that will be sure to get me to dance and I don't tell him what it is. We joke a bit and he walks off.

Another guy comes up and introduces himself and he has an accent. He tells me he is from Africa. We are talking about the election and some other things and he asks me about my thoughts or impressions of Africa. So I tell him things that I have heard, but of course don't know b/c I have never been there. We talk about that a bit and basically we keep talking most of the night. At one point he handed me his business card and I read it and handed it back.. Smooth huh? Like player you ain't that slick.. I ain't calling you.

I tell him I'm walking over to the DJ and requesting a song and then he has to come dance with me. Anybody wanna guess what song? LOL! We dance a couple songs and then it's time to go. Meanwhile, I go to the restroom and John reappears and says something like, "I asked you to dance and you didn't dance with me, but you out dancing now huh?" I just smile and ask him where his dance partner was/is.

At this point, I'm ready to go. I tell the African guy goodbye and I look for John to tell him goodbye as well. I don’t' see him so I walk over to the table he was sitting at with the professor and tell the professor it's nice to meet him and can he tell John I left. He stands up and gives me a hug and hands me his card and says soemthing like don't be a stranger.

So I get my coat and walk out to go in the garage. John is a few feet in front of me walking with the gold tooth chick. He turns around b/c he hears my footsteps and does not say a damn word. No goodbye. Nothing. I'm on the 3rd floor of the garage and I see that they walk to his car and he drives her up to her car which ironically is parked a few spaces over from mine. He drops her off and still does not say one damn word to me.

So you mean to tell me. You decide to exhibit body language that tells folks that I am with you or at least "friendly" with you and then you get mad at me and you don't even see that I make it to my car safely? And this is a dude who will see me out somewhere and call me to make sure I got home safe and then call the next morning to make sure I'm up for work. Yet now, I met you somewhere by your invitation and you can't even make sure I get to my car?

I could not wait to get in to the office to shoot his azz an email today. I'll paste it in for you.

Dear John,

Just wanted to tell you thank you again for inviting me to the party and the drinks. As long as I have known you, you have always been thoughtful and sweet to me and I appreciate that. I do feel that at the end of the night you showed me what type of person you really are when you saw that I was walking behind you in the parking garage and you did not even acknowledge that I was there nor make sure that I got to my car ok. That really didn't seem to be the John that I know. At any rate, I wish you well. Take care!

Signed,
Sweet and Innocent Serenity

Can I just say I am disappointed in him?